Picking up the Check
Tuesday night we were at a favorite restaurant with a favorite couple and I did one of my favorite things.
Near the end of the feast (see pic), I excused myself from the table, allegedly to go to the Men's Room, and paid the check. I did this because the other couple has been very good to us and also frequently picks up the check.
When the time came to leave, the subject of the check arose and I explained it had been taken care of. You should have heard the sincere howls of disapproval! After it all calmed down, I explained my reasons and they vowed to pay next time and good feelings were shared by all.
Have you ever been on either side of this experience?
My answers to my question vary from taking turns picking up the check to the following:
- There are those, I know one couple who are notorious for sitting back, who never reach for the check
- There are those who only offer to pay the tip
- There are those who who offer to split the check (after ordering many expensive drinks and the most expensive entrees)
- There are times I pick up the check for someone who has extended priceless advice or service to me at no charge
- And there was the time we were on vacation in France having dinner with a fraternity brother who bolted at the end of the meal, never to be seen or heard from again!

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All but the the last one!
All but the the last one!
Lucky you :)
Lucky you :)
I've been on both sides of…
I've been on both sides of that experience, more than once. Concerning other couples with whom we done regularly, I prefer to reach agreement that we alternate paying, so that I pay tonight's bill, you pay next time, and so on. I have a general aversion to splitting the bill. I never understand folks who insist on parsing the bill down to "who ordered what." But as one who enjoys good wine, I pay that tab separately when dining with non-imbibers. It can get sticky occasionally, but the point is to try to get on the same page regarding the bill.
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We’ve been on both sides…
We’ve been on both sides. Sometimes it’s best to say something before — no surprises
Good idea
Good idea
Check
Gr8 Topic Fred!
This is a big topic for my family as my father aka Padrini "Always" picks up the check and can get irked if this does not occur.
One should see how he gets treated at his favorite restaurants, "Vetro" owned by Frank Russo in Howard Beach being one of them.
I've gotten him less than a handful of times over the years
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In those moments, the…
In those moments, the feeling is always better to give, than receive.
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I too have been through all…
I too have been through all except the last one. If I know the people we are dining with with we either take turns paying or if its an expensive experience, will even ask the waiter, up front, for separate checks and then there is no issue at the end. But it does feel nice to pay the check during that fake bathroom break.
Separate checks!
Separate checks!
Been on the receiving and…
Been on the receiving and giving end. I appreciate when “received”.
I will try to tip (well as I always do) when the recipient.
I have semi regular breakfasts where we alternate.
Where I know we are splitting check and multiple parties are involved I moderate what I will order so not to take advantage of others’ pockets — whether or not the others involved do so.
If only two couples involved my practice is to divide check in 1/2 if other party orders more and/or pricier and grab check and assign an appropriate amount less than 1/2 to the other party when I opted to order more and/or pricier so that I pay more accordingly.
There was a couple who always insisted on separate check that I long ago refused to dine out again with; they also under-tipped (making me feel need to tip even more).
Where I noticed one person where in a group we split equally—you know this person— would have our party — IMHO— undertip, in future such gatherings (that no longer occur for unknown speculation) I picked up the check to announce the equal shares to make sure the tip meets my “standard.”
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Good substance
I have also "secretly"…
I have also "secretly" picked up the check for the whole thing.
When I split the check I make sure that the other couple gives the right tip.
I also used to test my daughter's boy friends. I would always pick up the tab but I would wait and see if they offered. i felt that this would show their character. When my daughters realized what i was doing, they let their friends know beforehand so it became moot.
Another of my gimmicks was when I would take out a client or someone I wanted to impress, I would tell the waiter it was their birthday and have them bring a dessert with a candle and sing happy birthday.
Any more tricks?
Any more tricks?
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