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The Ask

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Are you your own worst enemy?

Are you afraid to ask someone to do you a favor?

Are you a prisoner of your inhibitions?

Do you need a push or nudge?

 

Then read on:

It is my tried and true experience that, more times than not, when I muster up my pluck and make The Ask I am almost always pleasantly surprised.

After all, what’s the worst thing that can happen?

And then there’s the Ben Franklin effect!

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Submitted by Judy_Mauer on Thu, 07/08/2021 - 21:22

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Judy Mauer

It never hurts to ask….
What is the Ben Franklin effect? Lightning !!!???
Paul Napolitano

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Rick Raymond

Both seem true: Ask & you will get an answer, and Dave Abeshouse beneficial and recent lesson on “saying no.”
Vincent Russo

Learning from Fred - every day -

The Ben Franklin effect is a proposed psychological phenomenon: a person who has already performed a favor for another person is more likely to do another favor for the other than if they had received a favor from that person. An explanation for this is cognitive dissonance.
Norman Spizz

I’m the words of Mrs Ben Franklin. “Ben, why don’t you go fly a kite”
Fred Klein

How did you and Ben get along? Did he think you were funny?
Dana Charlton

This blog and comments in particular made me lol.

But this week I asked a favor of both Fred and Ben relating to something enormously important to me and they did not disappoint! I am always grateful to them, Fred's partners, and Gotham for all the help you have provided and offered all these years. I am eager to return the favors. Love, Dana
Victoria Drogin

It’s hard to ask sometimes. I’d much rather be asked. But when I do ask, I’m rarely disappointed. And yes, Ben Franklin had it right.
I always tell my students to ask for advice. Once someone gives you advice, they help you because they want their advice to be “right!”

Submitted by Steven_Lichtenstein on Fri, 07/09/2021 - 00:34

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Steven Lichtenstein

“He that has once done you a kindness is more likely
to do you another; then he whom has obliged you to do another” Benjamin Franklin

The Cognitive dissonance comes into play when someone who doesn’t perceive to like you performs the favor, not knowing why and then in order to reconcile the action, begins to see you (the asker) in a positive light.
Rona Gura

I have problems delegating. I have to have my fingers in everything. . . .
Fred Klein

Try delegating. You’ll like it. I have my Doctorate in Delegation :)
Shelley Simpson

First of all, my first thought was the same as Norman's, "go fly a kite" which is not usually what happens. I ask fr favors rarely, I am pleasantly surprised often. I learned a long time ago that most people cannot read my mind and so if I don't ask, the answer is always "no."
Fred Klein

Maybe because I think on right side of my brain…
Cynthia Somma

I'm with Nancy, I would rather be asked. I am getting better at asking...I don't like to put anyone out.
Paula Oleska

Always learning! Who knew Ben Franklin :) (Fred, of course). It was a long learn but now I can do it.

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