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Do You Vacation

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Cayce’s blog about rejuvenation and Don’s blog about lunch on vacation inspired me to write this blog. Last week I was in court trying to schedule continuing trial dates with my adversary and the judge. The judge suggested some October dates during a week I will be away on vacation. When I mentioned my vacation, my adversary said to me with a great deal of pride in his voice-- and a bit of a condescending tone-- “Oh you get to take vacations? I don’t.”

 

Before I had the opportunity to respond the judge did saying, “When someone works as hard as Ms. Gura obviously does, she clearly has the right to take a vacation.” She then suggested that we choose continuing dates two weeks after I returned.

 

That was not the first time I have heard someone tell me that they do not take vacations. As a young lawyer, however, my second place of employment was a Manhattan firm where I was taught the importance of vacations. We were expected to work very hard, round the clock if the need arose. But, we were also expected to take our vacation time. It was ingrained in me and all of my fellow workers that we needed to learn to balance the hard work with our personal life.

 

If we cannot take the time to enjoy ourselves, what’s the point?

 

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Submitted by NULL (not verified) on Mon, 08/31/2015 - 00:47

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Donna Levine wrote I went almost 8 years without a vacation and it is a huge mistake on many levels. 1 everyone expects you are always around and not entitled to a vacation 2. for mental and physical health reasons you have to go somewhere and do something different. Taking the occasional day off to hang is not enough. I even started taking vacation without my husband as he can not get off (hes working and went back to school) so i have taken myself to Canyon ranch in fla and in Oct i am gong to the one in Lennox Mass. Not the ideal situation but is better than nothing. It helps to make me a little more patient and hopefully a better boss at work.
Corey Bearak

We need vacations. How we create and take them varies.
I do submit that Rhona's adversary takes an awful lot of vacation, perhaps not realizing it as such.....

Submitted by SoniaSaleh on Mon, 08/31/2015 - 03:08

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Sonia Saleh

I was a workaholic and for years I didn't take vacation. And then shockingly I was fired, new owners. All that work meant nothing to them. I must admit I loved what I did. Still after that I learned to make time for me, family, and friends.Then taught all my mangers to take time off. It's refreshing. Now I take 3 vacations a year and am far more productive.

Submitted by Lucas_Meyer on Mon, 08/31/2015 - 05:43

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Lucas Meyer

Since my second year at my first job at Republic National Bank of New York, I took every day of my four weeks of vacation. And I still do now that we're in our own business.

My wife and I take a Spring get-away, usually in the Berkshires or East Hampton-- generally a four or five day jaunt, then we take some time off, usually with the kids, sometimes to Europe, and we've also gone to Australia and New Zealand. And then at year's end, we spend the balance, usually ten days to two weeks, with my wife's family down in Uruguay, where my mother-in-law has a house three blocks from the beach. It's a long flight, but oh-so-worth-it.
Nancy Schess

Great topic Rona and a hard one for me. I believe firmly that vacation time is there for a reason and that everyone should use the time available. That said, I find it hard to truly vacation (maybe a different question). I take my time off but have trouble disconnecting. As a result, I am never quite sure I have accomplished what the vacation was intended for in the first place. I love the part of this story where the judge stood up for you.
Cynthia Somma

I agree, time off is essential for everyone. The way I see it, it should not be my clients that get "the best of me" 24/7 365. My family deserves more. Like Nancy, I find it difficult to disconnect, and have made it a point to delegate better and more often.
Work in progress.
I like that you did not have to defend yourself...

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