Being Right vs Being Useful
Being Right vs Being Useful
A lot of people don’t actually want solutions; they want to feel morally right.
Why? Because feeling right is fast and easy.
Actually fixing problems is slow, boring, and messy.
Real change means compromise, listening to people you don’t like, and admitting you might be wrong.
It seems that a lot of people hate doing that.

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Opinions are hard to change…
Opinions are hard to change these days. Conversations become arguments.
Everyone is in their corner
Everyone is in their corner
Start with listening
Start with listening
Yyeess!
Yyeess!
This comes up in the…
This comes up in the insurance world, problem solving and being a good listener is key.
It's endemic
It's endemic
This comes up in my practice…
This comes up in my practice all the time. Sometimes people have to give up their notion of being in the right, as against their soon to be ex-spouse, to move forward. It's often a hard pill to swallow.
That sounds like really hard.
That sounds really hard.
Last statement in blog…
Last statement in blog unfortunately rings true.
But fixing things can be fun.
I wish everyone felt that way
I wish everyone felt that way
Diffusion
Diffusion of anger / indignation is an art that not many are proficient at. Being a supervisor in a nationwide call center you actually go through training in this skill.
Validating someone else's right to feel a particular way does not endorse those feelings....this is an important distinction to remember!
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