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My Mom is 93 with dementia living in an assisted living center. My Sister and I visit together on Saturdays. About three months ago I started bringing her a Boston Cream donut. She ate it with such vigor I started bringing two. The first time I brought two she ate both but the second and third time, no-go.

 

I figured she may have gottent tired of the Boston Cream so the next time I brought an old fashioned - plain doughnut as well as the BC. She chose the plain one and so begun the game. Over the past month, I been presenting two doughnuts....one she selected the week before and one totally different. I'm now onto doughnuts with sprinkles. Let's see what she picks today!

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Daniel Schwartz

You can't go wrong with a good donut. But I am not a fan of sprinkles myself. Enjoy the time with mom.
Rick Raymond

I don't think one can go wrong with sprinkles. I'm fascinated with our thinking of those we see as having dementia, because I hypothesize, perhaps their circumstances or situation for awareness change more so than deteriorate.
Kelly Welles

Sorry to be stick in the mud but the last thing I would give a 90 year old with dementia is a Boston Cream donut. I know you mean well but donuts are hard on the digestive system after 70 and for some after 45; 1/2 teaspoon of sugar lowers immunity by 300% and accelerates cognitive decline (90% of dementias are considered the third form of diabetes).. So one might say, "what the heck." With Valentine's Day around the corner, you might try sugar-free, dairy-free deluxe chocolates (search the web) or chocolate covered strawberries or sugar-free cookies w/o maltitol. Or bring mylar balloons. Somewhere in her psyche, she sense she is loved and appreciated. She was clearly gifted. She gave us you!
Mitch Tobol

That's true Kelly...the other side is if I can provide a little pleasure in her day..I'm in. I'll try some sugar-free stuff and see if she reacts the same way. Thank you
Crysti Farra

I love this story/game! This is such a hard phase and glad you found a way to work through it with some humor and smiles!

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