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I thought it was me. Recently, another attorney's personal comments were making me a bit uncomfortable. But, I could not articulate a single individual statement that was specifically innappropriate. And, in the wake of the #metoo movement I didn't think any male attorney would still think it would be appropriate to make personal statements to me. It had to be me.

Then I received an email from him concerning an upcoming court appearance which he signed, "XO."  I was astonished. I printed it out to show some of my staff and asked whether I was misunderstanding what he wrote. And, again we made all sort of excuses for him and for why he might have signed a professional email like that. It had to be me.

Recently, the attorney and I differed tremendously with respect to the manner he was communicating with a court appointed therapist (I believed he shouldn't have been communicating with her at all). After a bitter email exchange with me, the attorney called my office. When I was unable to take the call he left a message with my secretary. Clearly, uncomfortable, she came into my office and delivered the message personally, "Tell Rona I hate fighting with her. She knows I love her."

And even with that message, I still questioned my own behavior, what did I do to make him think that that sort of message was appropriate? It had to be me

This week, while standing together in the hallway of the courthouse, he looked at me and said, "Love you." That's when I knew for sure. It wasn't me, it was him.

And in the context of a motion to the court with respect to his behavior towards the court appointed therapist, I also made sure the court knew about his behavior towards me. And I made sure that the court knew that it wasn't me, it was him..