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What kind are you?…

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I was asked to guest blog today on any subject of my choosing. Since we are coming close to Passover and I was gathering my “eight minute Hagadahs” for the seder I remembered a passage where they described different types of children; the wise, wicked, simple, and ignorant. This led me to think about different kinds of networkers as I see them.

 

  1. THE GIVER- This person is the first to go out of his way to help someone, either by making an introduction or sharing his knowledge and advice freely.
  2. THE TAKER- Just the opposite of the giver. He or she expects everything to be handed to them and never returns the favors.
  3. THE UNAPPRECIATIVE – This person never says thank you or publicly acknowledges his fellow networker who has helped him so that other people are aware.
  4. THE NON NETWORKER- never comes to meetings or participates in any events and wonders why he gets nothing out of belonging.
  5. THE NEVER WORKS FOR ME- Comes to one meeting and never returns because everyone in the group didn’t break off their relationships to do business with him.

 

 

 

 

 

I could go on and on but I’m sure you get the point. SO WHAT KIND OF NETWORKER ARE YOU?

Comments

Corey Bearak

It's much better when someone else describes you but I'd volunteer you are the first mentioned of the list above.
Fred Klein

I agree with Corey and such feedback is important too!
Cayce Crown

You are definitely #1, as are the two commenters before me. I'm learning to be a #1, surrounding myself with great teachers. Like you.

Submitted by Judy_Heft on Tue, 04/04/2017 - 02:45

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Judy Heft

I was at an event last week and a former Gotham colleague came in and her first reaction was "what are you doing here?" Then when her friend asked me what I did and was intrigued While I explained she told her she didn't need me and could do it herself! That's a NON Networker if I ever saw one. I guess that why she quit Gotham!

Submitted by MarilynGenoa on Tue, 04/04/2017 - 02:48

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Marilyn Genoa

So interesting. By that I mean the definitions. When I saw the title my first response was ---a terrible one. I am really not great at walking into a large crowd of people I don't know and sticking out my hand, in fact I am terrible at it. That is what I think of when someone says "networking". Helping a colleague in need? Volunteering? Acknowledging someone's good works? Referring someone who is wonderful to someone looking for someone good? I have never considered that networking, just what you do. So interesting. If that is the definition then I am fortunate to have met many wonderful "networkers" over the past several decades, and now gratefully in my short time at Gotham.
Paul Napolitano

Norm, you are most definitely a GIVER. Corey is possibly the all-time greatest networking GIVER. Fred has always taught me and others to not be UNAPPRECIATIVE! (Sorry about the double-negative). Fred always preaches feedback and showing appreciation to those who have given to you. Yes Cayce, they are great teachers. :)
Fred Klein

At the risk of inflating Norm's head about the number of comments, his blog has inspired some potent suggestions and comments. Thank you all!

Submitted by Anne_Kleinman on Tue, 04/04/2017 - 03:30

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Anne Kleinman

There is a reason that most successful networking groups have a motto similar to Gotham's like the phrase "giver's gain" just can't remember if it is Ivan Misner or Bob Burg who says that

Submitted by Liz_Saldana on Tue, 04/04/2017 - 04:18

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Liz Saldana

Ouch! I understand your pain Judy. I hear that a lot too.

Submitted by Liz_Saldana on Tue, 04/04/2017 - 04:19

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Liz Saldana

I believe it's Ivan Misner.

Submitted by Liz_Saldana on Tue, 04/04/2017 - 04:28

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Liz Saldana

Funny, my husband and I had a similar conversation after the Gotham Anniversary Party. Yes, he thinks I'm the greatest thing since PB&J was invented; but he was also thrilled to have so many Gotham members tell him how great they think I am. We are both 'givers' and though we don't look for it specifically, often wonder so many why people don't express their appreciation. I have stories of people going out of their way to help me just because I always say 'please' and 'thank you'. Believe me, the words 'thank you' go a long way.

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