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"I Got A Name"

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A recent article in The New York Times piqued my interest. It discussed the trend of many young women to keep their maiden name when marrying. Their desire to keep their name was not so much a political statement, the author wrote, but a practical one. Many of the women interviewed stated that were choosing to keep their name so that it would be easier for them to maintain contact with people either professionally or through social media.

 

Having been married twice, I have twice had to make the choice as to whether to change my name. I wrote a blog a few years ago explaining my reasons as to why I choose to change my last name after each marriage. As a self-proclaimed feminist, I have never thought that the act of choosing to keep one’s name is a feminist undertaking but, rather, having the choice as to whether to do so is crucial. Included in that right is the ability to choose to use both names, i.e. Hillary Rodham Clinton, or using your maiden name professionally and married name personally. Moreover, choosing to have the man change his last name-my college roommate’s husband choose to do many many years ago-is becoming an option that younger people are now choosing, such as Zoe Saldana’s husband.


Given my feminist perspective on this issue, I found The Times observation that it has become a practical consideration rather than a political one intriguing. Did you or spouse change their name upon marriage? Why or why not?

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Fred Klein

Joanne changed her middle name to her maiden name
Cayce Crown

I've never understood why an adult woman would give up her name.
I did have one friend who is a chiropractor and her birth name was Wacker, so she took her husbands, Alter. That makes sense.
I have another friend who had a bad relationship with her father, so she didn't want his name. That I understand.
Let's see if the men will do it for the next 100 years.
It is personal. It is political.
After much reflection and thought,
I hope everyone will continue to do as they please.
Corey Bearak

Geraldine Ferraro used her married name for a 1978 meeting with a major politicL figure as her husband was the connection to getti g that meeting.
There were time I found it practical to introduce my wife early in our marriage by her Sephardic surname that some mistook as Italian including the chair of Americans of Italian Heeitage.
I am proud that she took the Bearak name and that she also is proud of her heritage (an apartment at Lower East Side Tenement Museun carries her Confino amily name).
A prominent NYC council member hyphenated her surname to include her spouse after their marriage during her current term.
I look at others post marriage to see if/ how email addresses change.
I welcome whatever the person with the options chooses.

Submitted by HelenaBouchez on Mon, 07/06/2015 - 02:34

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Helena Bouchez

I took a new last name the first time (then took my maiden name back) but did not change it for the second marriage. I have friends who combined and hypenated their kids last names. Before the eldest got married, he changed his surname to the father's surname because he said it was too cumbersome. (In his defense it was three words and five syllables). His wife then took the shortened (paternal) surname. I also know a couple that ditched both surnames and picked a new one that they both liked. Creating a genealogy nightmare for future generations, of course, but there you go. I'm with all of you however, people should adopt whatever appellation they feel best represents them, including changing or adapting their first name -- something I actually have done myself.
Cynthia Somma

JUST for today.....I am wishing you a very Happy Birthday!!!!

A few thoughts....Once upon a time...Hillary was Hillary Clinton. I paid attention only because I felt she rode in on her husbands coatails. It was later on that she started hyphenating her name.

My SIL used her last name as a middle name for all four of their children.

I'm all for whatever floats your boat....the only thing I can say--it shouldn't be a "forced" issue.

BTW, when I dropped my last name from FB, so many people PM'd me, I was tempted to put it back--just not to explain. Then after a while it became liberating....I've yet to change anything else and I may never.
Nancy Schess

I did. I do remember waiting on line with Bill to get our marriage license and the two of us pondering out loud whether we should both change our name to "Schlevine" (My maiden name was Levine.) However, that was not a choice on the form.

And following in Cindy's footsteps -- wishing you a very happy birthday!

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