Start local first...she will know which one fits and hopefully you won't have to go beyond a 3 hour drive :)

if they take you to a party, don't drink the punch

I wouldn't go to a "reach" school or a school that might financially be an issue for you until she's in or the financial problem is resolved. You risk the problem of her falling in love with a school that might not be a possibility. My sister learned this the hard way.

Reach for the stars and do early admission. If she gets in all the pressure is off.

Visit Financial Aid offices and use the Net Price Calculator (NPC) on every school's website to get an idea of what kind of package you might get. Also don't take on too many schools in one day.

The more schools visited, the more she will "know" when it feels right - Make sure she goes with her gut! Let her have an overnight with other students and she will learn what it is really like, since tours only show what they want you to see.

I think you should call Abby Siegel, our college admissions expert--she's terrific! I'm sure she has many great tips and could probably send you all of her newsletters too.

Research each school a bit before you visit, so that she can ask questions beyond the basic ones that are answered by the school's website or in the college advisory books. Don't assume that a school is beyond financial reach until you look at the entire package, including FinAid possibilities. Check out online bulletin boards where other students who are applying to the school congregate and comment on various aspects of the school -- this will provide fodder for useful questions you can ask while on the tour and/or in the info session. Search Facebook to see who you know graduated from the schools in which she's interested (look particularly for recent grads). Etc., etc.

My son and daughter are closer to this experience and did their research. For a variety of reasons Jonathan chose Queens and Marisa SUNY Purchase. Both choices worked out. Marisa has expressed in the past that it is important -- all things equal -- to support the child's school choice. All information that proceeds this post make sense.

My wife stipulated that any school the kids would attend be within four hours journey by car. I agree with Fred on the Early Decision idea (both of our older kids did it, and both were admitted to their first choice schools) and with Riva's "go with your gut" suggestion and to arrange a sleep-over in the dorm with freshmen-- many schools offer this.

I personally enjoyed taking the kids to different campuses. It was a "bonding" experience, I enjoyed spending time with them and it was interesting watching them ask questions. Most of all, Nancy, have some vicarious fun!