Entitlement issues

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It seems everywhere I turn these days I come across people with entitlement issues. Some ingrained. Some manufactured. Some deserved.

The ingrained seem to originate from the wealth or stature in which you were raised.

The manufactured type is the most vexing for me. It seems to be rampant in our youth of today. The seem to have a mistaken impression that things are owed to them. My generation was taught that you had to earn: a living; honor; and most of all, respect. But I believe my generation shares in this disease of the manufactured group. Society became so busy that we neglected to pass on the valuable lessons from OUR parents. 

The deserved group I deal with daily. They are my clients. Unfortunately for them, partly because the actions of the manufactured group in being handed things they do not deserve, my clients have to fight tooth and nail for benefits they should easily acquire otherwise. I refer to this as the “one bad apple” theory. 

Solution?  I am not sure, but maybe we should go back to the Mayberry days where Sheriff Andy was respected, Aunt Bea helped teach Opie the way of the world, and begin to realize that we can shape our future, 1 child at a time…our own child.

 

of coarse, this is all just IMO!!!!

Comments

Fred Klein

So much substance and truth in your perceptive blog IMO!
Victoria Drogin

This is a powerful observation Crysti. I am a professor at Mercy College, which is a Hispanic serving institution, with a very diverse undergraduate student body. I teach freshen with a very high percentage of first generation students who had to figure it out on their own, and fight to get where they are. They are an incredibly humble, respectful, hard-working, and appreciative group in general. They want to provide a better life for themselves and for their parents. They are scrappy, resourceful, and incredibly diligent in general. The feedback that we get from employers as they move through our business program is very positive, and often compared to other young business students who are perceived, as entitled, or needy and expect more assistance,, or “can’t figure things out by themselves“ or “not willing to do the hard work.“ It is definitely something happening right now in our society. We try to teach our kids to be resourceful, appreciative, hardworking and humble. Thanks for posting your thoughts.
Crysti Farra

Victoria, thank you for your detailed response. I think it speaks to exactly the point I was trying to make!
Daniel Schwartz

Very true. The sense of entitlement for those that haven't done much in life is rampant. I just had a long talk with my son a few nights ago about how you need to learn and earn before you can expect. A tough pill to swallow for many.
Shelley Simpson

Much to be discussed. I have been fortunate to have always worked with people of all ages and continue to do so. I also have two sons in their 50s and teenage grandkids. I see across the board both the "entitled" and the "humble." Maybe I am lucky but I see more of the "humble" types. Perhaps it's not luck but my choice in terms of the people I surround myself with. What I can say is that when I do get thrown into a situation with someone suffering from "entitlement syndrome" and have to continue in relationship, they get no slack. If one enters my orbit and is worth my time, they get cut no slack. And ifI come across one that has no place in my orbit, they are merely jettisoned. How people walk through the world is the result of what they were shown as kids as well as what they experience as they grow up. Parents don't always control the results but it does start there and continues with each as we interact with others because we all have an impact just as we were impacted. Thanks Crysti.

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