Great book and one of my all time favorites from H.S. Although you're shy Fred, you'll never go unnoticed!

Do what you must to stay visible.

I remember the story and also remember he was not such a good guy. He embraced invisibility, clearly, we do not. I actually hear this as much from some of my younger friends and colleagues who don't feel seen or heard. What do you make of that?

Sometimes it’s to my benefit to be invisible. I have spent a lot of time in my life trying to be noticed less. Right now I’m happy to fade into the background.

I think it’s also a regional thing. When we are in Texas or Buffalo, people are much more likely to be friendly and engage you, even as you just pass them on the street or in a store.

If you want to be noticed, I’m sure you’ll find a way.

As long as you don’t try too hard :)

I told the doctor that no one pays attention to me His reply. NEXT

I remember for 3weeks after 9/11 everyone in NYC was kind to one another. Held doors, met each other’s eyes with a smile or a shake of the head. Then it went back to normal. Lol. Sad that it takes tragedy to make us connect. I do see a difference regionally. Small towns, or when we visit my parents in Florida people wave and smile, upstate New York, people meet each other‘s eyes smile and nod on the streets. I do agree that it’s generational to a certain extent. I make it a point to try to meet my student’s eyed in the halls etc., although smiling behind a mask is sometimes difficult. Yet another barrier to separate us from one another. But perhaps we were a bit antisocial and self-absorbed when we were younger???

I’m going to use that on you :)

Like Judy, I've spent a lot of time wishing to be invisible (it's the introvert in me). I bet you get noticed more than you think :)

Fred, you are larger than life….
Just keep dancing!

Jo will tell you, I don’t dance :)

is it better than being called Ma'm or Sir?

I enjoy being nice and prefer not to act tough though when times require...

Many don’t know how tough you can be!