Submitted by Rona_Gura on

A Life Change

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This past weekend, my husband and I watched “Ford v. Ferrari.” (a fairly good movie that I would recommend). In one scene there is a huge crowd watching a race. At the conclusion of the race, there is a happy scene where most people in the scene hug one another. While watching that scene, I grew quite sad. It had nothing to do with the movie but, rather, our current situation.

 

 

That scene caused me think about the basic way life has changed for us. Thursday afternoon, my husband and I went to visit his brother and his wife at their house in the Hamptons. Due to the pandemic, we had not seen them in several months. Yet we could not hug them hello or, even, come within close distance to them without wearing masks.And, while we had a great afternoon with them, on the car ride home, I felt melancholy.

 

 

 

I miss being with people. I miss being able to hug my family and friends. I miss physically being at Gotham meetings, seeing my friends, kissing them hello, and having a few minutes to catch up. I also actually miss being in a Courthouse and running into my colleagues and having a quick chat.


 

I miss the touch of human contact. Have you felt it?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Fred Klein

I can't remember the last time I shook someone's hand. Growing up I learned the importance of a good firm handshake. That's all gone now...
Shelley Simpson

It is getting to all of us. I described it yesterday on FB Live as exhaustion. Melancholy is a better choice of words. I miss the energy I get from being with other people - you are 100% right about those quick chats.
Daniel Schwartz

I enjoyed that movies as well. Also know what you mean when you look at something from the not too distant past and think, we did that before...Many reruns on TV of live shows with an audience, not so much now. Hard to imagine going to a live event, forgetting the actually hugging. But I feel this will pass. A vaccine should be out in less than a year and maybe this period will be a just flash in the past.
Victoria Drogin

Yes. Yes, yes. Aching to hug the kids. New normal sucks. And like Shelley, us extroverts get so much energy from being with other people. I do love seeing my students on zoom calls, can’t imagine what it’s going to be like to teach in a mask. So much is facial expressions. Mine and theirs. I’m hopeful like Dan, that this will pass. I don’t want to forget how things used to be. Part of me is so upset and angry that there is a new normal that I don’t want to admit it might be here to stay. Although, when I think about how I am during flu season, (constant hand sanitizer no hugs, handwashing, etc., will it really Be all that different? Lol :) Thanks Rona. Movie is on my list.

Submitted by MarilynGenoa on Mon, 07/13/2020 - 00:16

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Marilyn Genoa

Absolutely. My younger daughter came to the house over the weekend----because her fiance has had to physically return to work in an area of concern they are being extremely cautious, so no actual touching or coming close. I agree with Victoria's very apt description---truly "sucks". So many things to navigate.
Rona Gura

I haven't hugged my older daughter since March. It just sucks.
Rona Gura

Or kissing someone hello? I also think handshakes are going to be gone.
Rona Gura

The problem with feeling this way, I fear, is that we are going to start "breaking the rules." I think we have to consciously double down on staying distant.
Rona Gura

It's so hard expressing things while wearing a mask. last week I had to tell someone that I was smiling under the mask. They were kind enough to say that they could tell by my eyes.
Nancy Schess

I'm with you all the way. I keep saying I am ready for this to be over -- but I'm afraid that is a long time away.

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