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Early Lessons

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Mitch’s blog this week, about the truth, brought back a deep-rooted memory for me. It was a memory that I learned from and carried with me throughout my career.

  

As a young attorney I was in the midst of one of my first oral arguments before a certain judge. I even remember his name and what it felt like to be conducting the argument in his vast courtroom. 

 

During my argument, the judge asked me a question. I began to answer his question, stating, "To be honest with you judge. . ." The judge stopped me immediately and said “Why would you say that? Aren't you always honest with me? Am I to assume that there are times that you are not honest with me?"

  

This occurred in a courtroom packed with other attorneys and, for several moments I was flustered. I recovered quickly, however, confidently told the judge he can trust that I would only tell him the truth and answered his question.

  

In leaving the courtroom I was very upset about that exchange. I realized later that the judge was trying to teach me a lesson.  He was trying to teach me that I need to project, always, that I everything I say in a courtroom is credible. I have never used the phrase, “to be honest with you,” ever again in a courtroom. Most importantly, I have learned to ensure that everything I represent in a courtroom is credible.

 

What early lessons have you learned in your career that have stuck with you?

 

 

Comments

Shelley Simpson

Which one? I am enjoying my 4th career. Each has built on the other and the one thing that I learned a long time ago that stuck with me is "how you do anything is how you do everything." So I too watch my words, show up prepared and always do my best at whatever it is I am charged with doing.
Tessa Marquis

Walk away if someone is offering you a kick-back.
Be fair and true to your co-workers.
When they offer you the job, go out immediately and buy a pair of bright red shoes.
Victoria Drogin

Put yourself in the shoes of others when making decisions or reacting. Look at options through the eyes of stakeholders. I’m still practicing and learning.
Daniel Schwartz

Listen first, answer if necessary. In sales, the last person that says a word, loses.
Nancy Schess

I had an ALJ caution me not to start my next sentence with "Now . . . ". I'm pretty sure I said, "Now judge . . . "

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