Not Just a Candle

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Several times a year we light candles for family members who have passed.   These are not just any candles.  These are special candles intended to burn for 24 hours in memory of the loved ones lost.

 

I always watched my parents light these candles every year, on certain holidays and on a date in the Jewish calendar commemorating their loved one’s passing.   Honestly, I never really understood the significance of the ceremony in which they engaged dutifully and quietly.

 

Yet now, I am at that stage in life where I am lighting these same special candles for loved ones lost.  Youth is wasted on the young, right?  I’m confident I now understand how my parents felt all through the years taking these moments to reflect on an ongoing special connection to people they loved. 

 

I am sure there are special prayers to say but I don’t know them.  I am sure there are special rituals that go with the lighting of the candles but I don’t know those either.  What I do know is that this particular candle is a special memorial to your loved one and, in an odd way, there is something  very comforting in this tradition.

 

Just an observation on this Tuesday morning.

 

Comments

Shelley Simpson

Your youth wasn't wasted. Obviously, it was the time you watched and learned from your parents a tradition in which we can find comfort and connectedness.
Corey Bearak

Been publishing a Book of Remembrance for several years as a fundraiser for my FDR Lodge 613 Knights of Pythias's foundation. It includes some prayers you can use: http://fdrlodge613knightsofpythias.com/News/files/2021_Book_of_Remembrance.pdf
Daniel Schwartz

I too feel the same way as you. I recently lit three candles before the last holiday, both of my parents and brother who passed away too young three years ago. I always take a moment to reflect on life and what we can do better for ourselves and loved ones. If there is anything taught by this tradition, for me, it is reflection of what was and what can be.
Victoria Drogin

I have this memory too. Watching my parents and grandparents light their candles over the years. This is how we learn. And I agree it’s a special ritual that creates space to remember. I am grateful not to be lighting any right now. Much love to you on those you are remembering.

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