Submitted by Rona_Gura on

Something to be Thankful For

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Last week I was fortunate to be a guest at a dinner sponsored by the Long Island Chapter of the Jewish National Fund. After dinner the film, “Beneath the Helmet” was shown. This documentary chronicled the lives of four Israeli young adults for a period of eight months; the period after they graduate high school, enter the army, and complete their initial military training in the Israeli Defense Force (“IDF”.)

 

 

The four teens chronicled in the film are shockingly, patently young. It was so difficult to realize that the onerous task of defending Israel rests on the shoulders of teenagers. And, most surprisingly, the documentary accurately shows that, while some of the four believe in the cause, others are  clearly there because they have no choice; all Israelis are required to join the IDF.


This blog is not about my feelings concerning Israel, Zionism, or the IDF. Rather, this blog is about my unexpectedly strong emotional reaction to this film, especially when listening to the interviews of the parents of the soldiers. This blog is about how, in our very busy lives, we often forget how privileged we are to live in a country where we are not required to send our children to war. And, as a parent, while I can strongly sympathize with the emotion and pain of the parents in the film, I do not have to live with their fear and uncertainty wondering if my children will survive their time in the armed forces and come home.


I admit that this is a subject that I do not often think about. I do not pause in my day to consider how thankful I should be that, if our children choose to serve in the military, it is their choice and has been since 1973. And, I do not often think about how thankful I should be that there those who choose to join the armed services to protect our way of life. But, it is something I will think about more often. How about you?

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Submitted by MindyStern on Sun, 03/01/2015 - 21:43

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Mindy Stern

Thanks for reminding us about other countries' realities.
Cayce Crown

Thanks for the reminder of just how fortunate I am.
Great way to start the day.
My Dad was in Korea when I was born, it took me years to begin to understand what that must have been like for my Mother with a 3 other young children at home.
And, of course, I can never fully understand.
We never know what another person is going through.
Thanks for the expansive thoughts.

Submitted by SoniaSaleh on Sun, 03/01/2015 - 23:06

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Sonia Saleh

We do not live in a perfect country yet it's always lovely when we stop and appreciate how fortunate we are to be able to make so many choices in our lives in the United States compared to other countries. Women do get to go to school here, people get to decide on their careers, military or otherwise, we all get to vote, and the list goes on. Thanks for another reminder Rona.

Submitted by NULL (not verified) on Mon, 03/02/2015 - 01:25

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At times, I could be the one to talk all day about what is wrong with our country. Then I read your blog, and it reminds me about what is also so right with our country. We all need to be reminded more, and really learn to appreciate what we have the right to do, and also the things that we do not have to do. Great Blog!
Philip Gura

Submitted by NULL (not verified) on Mon, 03/02/2015 - 04:36

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The one most remarkable thing that stood out to me when I visited Israel were the children with rifles. Wherever I went they were in the streets conversing with each other and if not for the guns, they just looked like young people enjoying a day out in the sunshine.

When I was young we had the Vietnam war and the Draft. The Draft was a very frightful thing and all talk was about AVOIDING this arbitrary selection of some young man to go to war.

I do know that for my Israeli friends, this is a mere fact of life and the children serve after high school and before college. They put off their future in order to get their service out of the way. Many stay on and all can be called back. For there is an unspoken honor to do so. But Israel is under constant attack and the young must protect their country.

A vast difference and I only hope that there will not again be a Draft.

Arlene Haims


Submitted by NULL (not verified) on Mon, 03/02/2015 - 08:37

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In order to survive as a nation the children of Israel must serve to protect their country. As a result they mature at a very young age. Your blog was excellent in making us aware of these circumstances and how fortunate we are as Jews to be living in the United States . Thank g-d our children have choices .
Nancy Schess

Great reminder of what it means to live in this country. Sometimes we forget. I will never forget walking in Times Square with our own Debbie Lindner. Debbie stopped to walk over to a uniformed service man crossing the street. She stopped him to shake his hand and say "Thank you for your service."

Submitted by NULL (not verified) on Mon, 03/02/2015 - 23:27

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What a very good perspective to gain from that. You're right - it is certainly not one I think about. There are so many things we take for granted, whether rights or material comforts, that we really should stop and be grateful, every day. Not to mention that studies are now showing that people who notice & are grateful about things are happier and healthier! - Stacey

Submitted by NULL (not verified) on Mon, 03/02/2015 - 23:34

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I have a number of friends who made Aliyah as young adults and raised their families in Israel. Just about everyday, one of them displays a picture of a son, daughter, niece or nephew on Facebook, younger than my own youngest, either going off to or on leave from the military--much in the same way the rest of us post pix of our kids going off to sleep-a-way camp or college. I am touched and somewhat shaken every time I see a smiling boy or girl in uniform and I am amazed at the sacrifice they make for their country, just like our own soldiers do. And every day, I say Thank You.

Submitted by Erik_Scheibe on Tue, 03/03/2015 - 01:57

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Erik Scheibe

Great blog. This is why it is not only so crucial to be thankful of our soldiers for serving voluntarily so that the rest of us didn't have to, but to also take seriously the decisions involved in fighting and preventing wars.
Cynthia Somma

Ahhhh....it is very difficult. So much to be thankful for. For the second time, I am going thru (with my second son) his desire to join the National Guard. I let the first kid ride it out because I knew he would see it wasn't for him. This guy--I'm not so sure about--and it scares me. He will be 20 next month and I am smart enough to know him very well and I know nothing I say will change his mind. On one hand I am immensly proud that he wants to serve our country, on the other hand---I can't imagine him leaving the nest., even though boot camp will be over the summer. So while he mulls over his decision, I will bite my nails and ride the wave with him.

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