A Child In Every Work Place?

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So many topics to consider. One who probably knows best suggested I cover a fave topic – music – and the current president's taste. Driving to basketball (and after we played friends there thought I should blog on our 4 v 4 full court games) this morning Adam LaRoche dominated the sportstalk radio airwaves; and as well when we left the gym and I turned on the radio again. We may not know the whole truth but a player who had some success and mucho against my fave team, left some $13 million on the table when the White Sox management backed off an agreement to allow his now 14 year-old boy to be in the clubhouse.


Now every team sets its own rules. No universal rule applies.


Nonetheless I recalled how much my own boy and girl got to hang with their dad, including "starring" at Ruth Messinger's announcement for Mayor outside the PS186 playground in Bellerose, Queens.

Marisa & Jonathan campaign for Ruth

 

I recall managing Marisa's softball team in Port Washington – in my suit – standing behind the backstop shouting instructions while taking a call from then Bronx Borough President Freddy Ferrer's (2001) mayoral campaign press secretary John Del Cecato.


Jonathan “interning” as an eleven-year-old in the summer of '98 in the City Council Member's office where I served as Counsel/ Chief of Staff; the councilman gave Jonathan work directly; he performed it well.


The next year when school was out Jonathan came to work with me at my new gig as Legislative Counsel to The Bronx Borough President; the next thing you know he rebuilt the website and 'til this day, I've not liked any public official's site better (Jonathan also built the Queens Civic Congress site).

Freddy's home pageThe office's IT folks also disabled the games on everyone's PC's and to this day, my friend Kalman marvels how 12-year old Jonathan restored the games on his PC. Marisa loved Take Your Daughter To Work Days.

 

In Freddy's '05 race, Marisa, then 16, joined me at the campaign HQ most days, sometimes covering the phones and was the only one Kalman (now campaign executive director) trusted with the campaign credit card to get supplies or to make the deposits of thousands of dollars of contributions.

 

When I left government in '03 I found an even greater flexibility to be in my children's lives and meet my professional responsibilities.

 

So weigh in on Adam LaRoche.  The Public Ought To Know.

Comments

Fred Klein

Not sure re LaRoche, but you are surely a great role model and dad!
Gideon Schein

What a testament to the best reason to have children. Of course they are so fortunate that you created them! As to LaRoche, his teammates and coaches say it all.

Submitted by VincentPetraro on Sun, 03/20/2016 - 00:29

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Vincent Petraro

Every team has their own rules, but this team allowed him to do it last year and, from all I have read, agreed he could. So here, the team is wrong, very wrong and kudos to LaRoche!
Tessa Marquis

Agreed. I spentmany many hours at my father's office. He was an architect so it was kid paradise, sorting colored pencils, practicing making trees to shade the miniature cars on the models, running errands, straightening out the supply closet. All valuable.

Submitted by TomGrech on Sun, 03/20/2016 - 03:03

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Thomas Grech

Not sure; doesn't seem a child has any business being in a locker room environent, etc.

Submitted by Erik_Scheibe on Sun, 03/20/2016 - 03:43

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Erik Scheibe

No one really knows the truth about what goes on inside a locker room other than the participants. There has been talk that this has divided the locker room and that some were bothered by it.

It is crucial to the story to understand what really happened. The team did not even come close to banning his son from the locker room. The GM had a conversation with LaRoche about "dialing it back" maybe to about 50% of the time. This is not just the team cracking down on take your daughter to work day. LaRoche's son literally was with him 100% of the time, including his own locker next to his i the locker room. LaRoche's son did not attend school and was home schooled/tutored, because it's was said he would learn more by being with his Dad on the ball field all day rather than being in school with other kids.

Far be it from me to judge another parents decisions about their child, but if he wasn't a famous baseball player, in any other life situation, I think the decisions would have been questioned.

Additionally, I believe (and I'm guessing others in the organization believed) it was detrimental to the professionalism and competitive nature of a winning team.

I think Ken Williams acted courageously, knowing the backlash he would face and setting himself up for internal and external derision. As far as team rules, I imagine teams set rules, trying to do the right thing, not considering the possibility that the situation would be take advantage of to such an extent.

Don't think for a second that the team and to whatever extent other players had a problem with this, were completely irrelevant to the player's and team's underperformance last season. If LaRoche and the team had performed as expected last season, probably this would not have become an issue. Not because of special treatment, but because it can unquestionably be viewed as a massive distraction.

With all of the wonderful stories and memories that commenters have referenced, the idea of having your child with you at your job 100% of your workday, everyday, would not only be detrimental to your job, but also a little weird.
Cayce Crown

I like the idea. People might think more carefully about their behavior if there are children around.

Submitted by Alex_Fecci on Sun, 03/20/2016 - 05:40

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Alex Fecci

I wonder what the Team's Insurance Company & Legal Counsel thinks of this. From an insurance responsibility point of view. Who's responsible if the kid gets injured. More so, On the grounds of "Sexual Harassment" Allowing an Environment to Exist, which is offensive to a person. Any Lawyers out there, wanting to comment?
Corey Bearak

Audrey Stone Uhlfelder via Facebook: Marisa and Jon certainly had wonderful experiences going to work with you.
https://www.facebook.com/CoreyBearak/posts/10153507384717913?comment_id=10153508179442913&comment_tracking=%7B%22tn%22%3A%22R1%22%7D
Corey Bearak

Phyllis Stone Bearak-Stark via Facebook: Wonderful memories! And certainly kudos go to you Corey for taking such an interest with your children.
https://www.facebook.com/CoreyBearak/posts/10153507384717913?comment_id=10153508427042913&comment_tracking=%7B%22tn%22%3A%22R%22%7D
Rona Gura

I've been thinking about this topic all week. You jumped on my topic me friend. :) I think the crux of the issue for me is that the child was there everyday. I'm all for exposing kids to the workplace with their parents but everyday? At the end of the day, his dad was at work and I can't believe it didn't impact his dad's work product or those of others. I do not think I would want any of my employees to bring their child to work every day. There's no difference other than he makes a lot more money than my employees.

And, as for the child, I don't have any issues with homeschooling. But how does he get educated if he's sitting on a baseball field all day? I know that kids who are home schooled have to maintain certain academic standards. How was that happening?
Amparo Connors

I'm a big believer that anything to the extreme is not good. I highly value past days spent with my children at work, but they were only occasional visits when they were young and it was the 'bring your child to work day'. As my own boss I could have set rules where they came with me every day, but my productivity would have suffered and the kids would have been bored after the novelty wore off. A staff member's sons have come to the office, and the kids have sat quietly working on Ipad's/PC's and kept themselves entertained with video games; they "came to work with Mom" out of a daycare necessity. Would I be OK with them at work every day? No. Too many distractions for my employee, even though they've been well behaved, the focus is no longer the work.

In my opinion the LaRoche situation appears to be a case of extremes. I agree with questioning how a 'home school child' properly kept up with curriculum, especially on the road every few days and staying up late on many night games. LaRoche's decision to leave the team was likely based on a perceived breach of contract. If the contract did not clearly define the frequency of his son's locker room and game attendance, then LaRoche walked because believes he'll win a sizable settlement. He chose the life of pro ballplayer which means time away from family. Is a nomadic life suitable for a child? I don't think so. Sure sounds like team mates were tired of the kid being there all the time too, and ultimately this factored into their performance on the job.

I agree with young kids joining working parents on certain occasions, or based on a parent's need. For teens, who can contribute while learning, a P/T or summer job sound ideal. But a child with you 100% of the time while working? Like Erik said, it's weird!
Riva Schwartz

Grade School age Robbie put on a tie and carried a mini-briefcase to Court with his Daddy, Alan. He has since followed in Daddy's footsteps!

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