Submitted by Rona_Gura on

Kiss and Tell?

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Do you kiss colleagues as a form of saying hello in professional situations? I have encountered this question more frequently. In certain informal professional situations, such as networking meetings, I have no issue with a small peck on the cheek as a friendly hello. Recently, I have noticed however, that this custom seems to have expanded beyond informal professional settings; such as into the courthouse and the conference room.

 

I have become unsure as to how to respond to a colleague who is obviously reaching over to peck me on the cheek. In some respects, I feel that it reflects a personal connection I have to many of my professional associates having been practicing with them in the same field for a long period of time. In contrast, however, I wonder if it is an unprofessional way to behave. Are we demeaning ourselves professionally by revealing an informal relationship?

What do you do?

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Submitted by JeffSavlov on Sun, 11/02/2014 - 22:35

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Jeff Savlov

Personally, I do not like different greetings for males and females. In some European situations everyone does the double-cheek kiss but it is the same for all. I'd prefer one standard greeting (and parting) custom. Too many long-standing social issues around treating women differently. I find it (usually unintentionally) patronizing and belittling.

Submitted by MindyStern on Sun, 11/02/2014 - 22:43

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Mindy Stern

Interesting post, since I have also been wondering about this. So many people are now shying away from shaking hands due to the germ issue. Has a peck on the cheek replaced the handshake?

Submitted by NULL (not verified) on Sun, 11/02/2014 - 22:59

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I would think a peck on the cheek is much more likely to spread germs than a hand shake. I am against physical contact if at all possible.

Submitted by ZevAsch on Sun, 11/02/2014 - 23:20

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Zev Asch

I spent many years traveling overseas on business and without a doubt, crossing the line into a kiss signified a different level of 'connection'. My European sales reps hugged and kissed me (frequency was correlated with size of commission checks of course). Our Japanese and Korean partners bow.

Personally, I prefer the Japanese/Korean 'bow'. I am not suggesting that we begin to bow at networking meeting (massive head injuries for sure), but let's dispense with the boring handshake, hug or kiss. A genuine smile and a slight nod of acknowledgement is perfectly fine.

If you want to show/display a certain level of warmth, a slight touch on arm is a great way to do that without germs or misinterpreted cues.

A smile is worth a thousand pecks...try it.

Submitted by NULL (not verified) on Mon, 11/03/2014 - 02:00

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It depends on the relationship you have with the client. In my opinion, a handshake is ALWAYS the appropriate greeting with a new business relationship. As the relationship progresses, it may develop into a kiss on the cheek.

I recently had a lunch with a potential client who I have done work for in the past when I was with other firms (on my own now). When I was saying goodbye to the person I extended my hand and he reached in to give me a peck on the cheek.

It was a bit awkward at first but I realized that he was letting me know that we have known each other so long that we are past the formalities of a handshake.

Therefore, I decide based on how long I know the business contact and what I think he/she will prefer.
Corey Bearak

It really depends on the relationship.
Plain and simple.
Sometimes a hug, a peck, a handshake.
Where the hug or peck is concerned, I believe both parties wan to convey to each others and those in observance, the relation is close and trusting.
There are others things as well including seating arrangements that can convey similar things.

Submitted by NULL (not verified) on Tue, 11/04/2014 - 08:01

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Pecks are fine, depending on the people and the situation. If I were you, don't know if I'd peck in front of my client if I was about to do battle with your colleague and the soon-to-ex. I wasn't much for pecking when I was in private practice but in a corporate setting, it has become much more acceptable and even expected, especially by folks all around the globe. Hugs too. My only hesitation is the one colleague who pecks on the lips. Definitely nothing intimate but awkward.

Submitted by Erik_Scheibe on Tue, 11/04/2014 - 16:27

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Erik Scheibe

Nothing as impersonal as anonymous quotes :)

Submitted by NULL (not verified) on Wed, 11/05/2014 - 00:19

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I say no

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