Submitted by Rona_Gura on

How Far Have We Really Come?

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About a year ago, I wrote a blog about a memorandum which was sent to only the female attorneys in one of the largest law firms in the world. The memorandum was created by the firm’s Women’s Committee  in order to improve their female associates’ presentation skills. Included in the memorandum were “tips” such as, “Your friends will still like you afterwards, even if you adopt a more formal tone,” and Don’t giggle; Don’t squirm; Don’t tilt your head,” and, lastly, “Practice hard words.”

This week a friend forwarded to me an Opinion article published by The New York Times which cited a study done for Fortune.com concerning the difference between workplace reviews given to men and women.  I read both The New York Times article and the study.  After reviewing two hundred and forty-eight reviews from twenty-eight companies, the authors of the study found that managers gave female employees more negative feedback than they gave male employees.  Moreover, seventy-six percent of the negative feedback given to women included some kind of personality criticism, such as comments that the woman was “abrasive,” “judgmental” or “strident.” Only two percent of the reviews received by the men included negative personality comments.  Most interestingly, the results were the same whether the manager writing the review was a male or a female.

I can readily recall being a  very young associate attorney and discussing with other female associates, in the changing room at our annual firm outing, how long it would take for a certain male partner to approach me, make a lecherous comment, and lewdly touch an exposed area of my back.  The partner in question approached me exactly as predicted within moments of my entrance into the cocktail room. This incident and many more like it, however, occurred before Anita Hill testified at the Supreme Court confirmation hearings of Clarence Thomas. While Ms. Thomas’ testimony did not usurp the nomination of Justice Thomas, it did draw attention to and effectively lead to the prohibition of the uncomfortable and inappropriate behavior many of us were experiencing in professional offices at that time. For those of us who had experienced sexual harassment, the result of Ms. Hill’s testimony was a complete change in our workplace environment.

But have we gone far enough? If we allow women in the workplace to be critiqued for who they are, as opposed to the work they are producing, aren't we still engaging in gender harassment? What else needs to be done?

 

Comments

Corey Bearak

The comments in the memo offend me and study findings really bother me. In too many work paces mucho education needs to be done. It should always be about the work. Nothing wrong with being professional in dealing with colleagues of any gender.
Fred Klein

This is alien to me. In our firm There are five partners and I am the only male. I can attest to their treating me fairly.

Submitted by NULL (not verified) on Mon, 10/06/2014 - 00:03

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I wish that this were the exception to the rule but alas, it is not. While back rubs ("you look stressed") may have stopped after Anita Hill had her day in court, subtle (and sometimes not so subtle) discrimination still exists. I can't even remember how many times I was called a pit bull when, as a lawyer, I was zealously representing my client being assertive, strong and unapologetic for my positions.

Submitted by Erik_Scheibe on Mon, 10/06/2014 - 03:10

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Erik Scheibe

I'm not going to bother commenting on the legitimacy of the Anita Hill hearings other than:
*I agree it positively affected conduct in the workplace
*It is both laughable and sad that these hearings took place the year before we elected, then re-elected, the most lecherous sexual scoundrel to the Presidency that we know about
*Any woman who worked with me, networked with me or was friends with me would know that from a decency standpoint and from an intelligence standpoint that they would be treated better by me than many of the same men whom allege to publicly champion these causes.
Rona Gura

Erik, I'm not sure, at this point whether its a question of decency rather than education. After reading the study, I went back to my notes of reviews I have given to my secretary and my female associates. Happily, my notes indicated that the reviews were solely about the work. I am, however, now more cognizant of that distinction and will keep it in mind in future reviews.

Submitted by NULL (not verified) on Mon, 10/06/2014 - 05:03

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Rona - you are such a good writer! And I'm so sorry that that happened to you! xo Stacey

Submitted by NULL (not verified) on Mon, 10/06/2014 - 09:54

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That was great Mindy Stein

Submitted by NULL (not verified) on Tue, 10/07/2014 - 04:10

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Women are called "aggressive" for the same behavior in which men are called "assertive" - Riva

Submitted by Erik_Scheibe on Tue, 10/07/2014 - 12:40

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Erik Scheibe

Fair enough Riva. Is it possible that women are more worried about whether they are called "aggressive" or "assertive" than are men? Is it possible that at some point we may have to accept the reality that we are different? Neither better, but certainly different.

Submitted by NULL (not verified) on Tue, 10/07/2014 - 23:26

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I know that such harassment continues especially in certain industries. More often on younger employees who don't want to be perceived as trouble makers, establish early questionable impressions, jeopardize their career or jeopardize business relationships. If you ask younger female (and some male) employees if they have been in uncomfortable situations, you will be surprised at the percentage that respond affirmatively.

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