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My daughter, Mea, is getting married on Saturday. The wedding is in Seattle and the weather forecast, at last check, doesn't include rain. A good omen. It's a good thing that the wedding is in Seattle, because I'm going to need a nice long plane flight to think about what to tell my daughter and new son-in-law. What words of advice (dare I say "wisdom"?) do I give these young adults starting their life together?

 

As I said, it's a good thing it's a long flight.

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Cynthia Somma

Laugh everyday, forgive often and it's all about compromise. Great marriages do happen...make yours great! There is nothing sexier than a man that does the dishes or one that could take your place (household matters) should the need arise. Partners. 'Enuff said. :)
Mazel Tov, Ben, Flo and the rest of your crew. Please post some pictures! Xoxo

Submitted by NULL (not verified) on Wed, 05/01/2013 - 23:52

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never go to sleep mad and compromise, compromise, compromise

Submitted by Vincent_Serro on Thu, 05/02/2013 - 00:27

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Vincent Serro

I think you can sum up the key to a long lasting relationship in one word: communication! Almost all problems stem from one person not letting the other one know what they feel and why the feel that way.

p.s. I thought rain on your wedding day was good luck?
Rona Gura

Long flight to me means a lot of Valium!
Mazel tov my friend. Along with compromise and communication, I would add that you have to laugh with one another. Some of my favorite times are when my husband and I are just laughing about something silly.

Submitted by NULL (not verified) on Thu, 05/02/2013 - 04:08

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Be kind to each other and yourselves. Mabel tov

Submitted by NULL (not verified) on Thu, 05/02/2013 - 04:19

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My father-in-law told the greatest joke at my wedding nearly 20 years ago. Here is how it goes. He said that when he found out we were getting married he told his wife he would go to New York to visit me and take me to dinner and see if he approved of his soon to be son-in-law. At dinner, he said Joe (that's me the then groom), my daughter is used to getting a new wardrobe each year and always wearing the latest fashion, on your salary how will you afford it. Joe said G-d will provide. I said Joe, my daughter is used to having new furniture and decorations, on your salary how will you afford it. Joe said G-d will provide. I said Joe, my daughter is used to taking vacations all over the world, on your salary, how will you afford it. Joe said G-d will provide. So when I got home to my wife she asked how my dinner was with our soon to be son-in-law. I said, "it was great, but he kept calling me G-d". I hope you enjoy the joke.
Mazel Tov and enjoy every minute of this wonderful occasion. Joe from Boston.

Submitted by NULL (not verified) on Thu, 05/02/2013 - 04:36

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Flo,that was terrific. Any divorce lawyer (like Rona Gura) will tell you that COMMUNICATION is key. When you don't, your assumptions become self fulfilling prophacies and pull a good marriage off its tracks. Make sure you schedule time to be alone together -- away from work, phones, kids, etc. Laughter is key.our most intimate times have been when we had great laughts about anything at all . AND (drumroll, please) it's not about being right, it's about each of you making it work for the other and forgiveness. both of you will grow -- not always in same direction and pace, but again communication keeps you together.

Submitted by Lucas_Meyer on Thu, 05/02/2013 - 05:46

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Lucas Meyer

Congratulations, Ben! I take it we like the son-in-law to be?

Submitted by NULL (not verified) on Thu, 05/02/2013 - 08:45

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Never go to bed angry (even if you have to clench your teeth when kissing each other "good night") and
"It's not only about marrying the right partner; it's about being the right partner." Paula from Boston
Adam Krim

Mazal tov, Ben. It was a long flight and apparently you put it to good use. You spoke wonderfully and shared your fatherly words of wisdom with Mea and Charles 2.0. Mea was a beautiful bride and there wasn't a dry eye in the house (at least in our section) during the ceremony. Mazal tov, again. See you, Flo, and the happy couple at dinner.

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