Submitted by Fred on

Aspects and Degrees of Communication

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In today’s technologically sophisticated world there are myriad channels of communication. 

To me, the best and most basic manner of communication is talking face to face, where you can look someone directly in the face and discern facial expressions (“Tells”) while taking in the words, gestures and eye contact. 

My father’s number one rule of interpersonal judgment was whether someone looked him the eye. Very little else mattered to him as he took the measure of a person and, invariably, he was right on!

So let’s all agree that face to face (“Water Cooler”) communication is optimal, but in this COVID age we are often relegated to other, virtual, means of communication. 

As an aside, virtual communication is not necessarily new, as we know from the Walter D. Edmonds book, the drum was a communication fixture along the Mohawk :)

I will try to list the various means of virtual communication in my order of preference:

  • FaceTime 
  • Telephone
  • Voice Mail
  • Text
  • Email
  • Facebook Messenger
  • Fax
  • Letter writing
  • Hand written notes

 

Have I missed anything (carrier pidgin for instance)?

In closing, I have to add that choices on the above may be moved up the list by some, as they do not require immediate response and allow for pause, reflection, or “I didn’t see it”.

As we make progress, communication gets more and more complicated, yet Joanne prefers telephone with a wire :)

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Benjamin Geizhals

In our fathers’ day, there were fewer alternatives. And the means of communication is ever changing. Also, it is a generational thing. The key is often avoiding miscommunication, whatever the means...
Shelley Simpson

As with everything, there are benefits and burdens with each. I prefer face to face for personal and some business. The phone is my favorite alternative followed by text and then email. The DMS, PMs. IMs cause confusion when it comes to keeping track. I always ask for the other person's preference and stick with that.I still send letters. Fax? Really?
Daniel Schwartz

I agree entirely with Shelley. If not face to face, phone, text or email. I am not on Twitter, but many like that too. We do see some business still fax and would recommend doing it through the cloud as the best way. I can help with that

Submitted by Judy_Mauer on Thu, 04/21/2022 - 21:57

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Judy Mauer

You left out zoom, which has been my main go to during the pandemic. I do it on my computer screen and with headphones it can be a fairly intimate experience.
Ray Walcott

Face2Face is the best, but I’ve come to love Zoom (no traffic or travel time). In my fantasy leagues the choice of communication is WhatsApp. You can see if your messages are delivered to the group. who took the time to open it, and read it. It’s also great for keeping in touch with family and friends internationally.
Paul Napolitano

I sadly admit, I truly prefer texting and email (via voice to text) for most of my communication. It is the only way I can budget my time efficiently. With my business, I need to talk to so many clients and insurance companies each day that sometimes there is just not enough time for phone calls, especially with people that are prone to lengthy conversations. Also, with texts and emails I can respond when it is more convenient, and I have a record/reminder to go back to.

Submitted by Fred on Thu, 04/21/2022 - 22:09

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Fred Klein

How could I have forgotten!!!
Victoria Drogin

For me, different communications for different purposes. texting has made it very efficient, and also fun and easy to stay in touch. (As a working mom, I gave my kids phones very early, but the rule was if I ever try to reach you and can’t, you lose it. lol. It has allowed us to stay close as we’ve all grown up and apart, and also with my folks down in Florida who are surprisingly tech savvy). Sometimes nothing beats a smile, a quick heartfelt and genuine “how are you actually though?” And a hug. As for zoom, FaceTime, I like it because like Fred said, it allows you to see peoples faces.
Vincent Russo

I support the comments made by Victoria. I am a fan of zoom - as a visual person - i agree with Fred: i want to see your face but Fred's list may be a different pecking order depending on who you are communicating with and the content of the communication. i also feel strongly that email should not be the first line of communication in all cases. Fred - thanks for raising this topic.
ODEY RAVIV

Great topic. Before Zoom , I thought FaceTime was the optimal for work! Things change fast nowadays!
Rona Gura

Since we've been relegated to video conferencing for court a lot of my colleagues and I talk a lot about how much we miss seeing each other in the real world.
Corey Bearak

I see twitter and zoom noted in others comment. I eschew Facebook messaging. I rarely respond to most social media messaging in that media; ill respond via email. Agree with Paul i like email as a record and will use it to confirm voice or other conversation forms. Texting is in the moment and some who use that mode should consider whether an immediate response is likely; if/where notI, I recommend using email.

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