The Art of Not Shaving

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One night this past week I walked into the kitchen as Eve was preparing dinner and from behind gently rested my face against hers.  It took only a few seconds for her to lightly shriek and turn around and say "you shaved!" and then tell me that I have such a cute face.  My mother used to say the same thing.  "Why do you cover your nice face with that ugly beard?" she would always ask me.



The beard usually comes some time in November, just as the weather starts to chill.  There are a few reasons for it.  I like having a beard.  It is cozy and it keeps me warm.  It also reminds me of my father, who always had one.  He grew his for the first time in 1972 when he badly burnt his left hand in an accident and he could not hold a razor.  My greys, browns, and even hints of red look just like his did, and when I look in the mirror and see his beard on my face I like it.  My sons also have a beard and it adds to a sense of father/son camaraderie when we all do during the winter months.



It also has practical advantages.  I don't have to shave.  I don't like shaving.  Years ago I had a shaving brush and shaving soap and tried to make it an art form.  It was fun for awhile, but who has the time to lather up shaving soap every morning.  I took to shaving in the shower but often did a lousy job of it because I could not see what I was doing.

 

With the coming of spring the beard is typically shed.  Like this past week.  It feels refreshing, though I still find shaving to be a pain.  I wonder how women feel about putting makeup on each morning.  It is different though -- that is beautifying, shaving is like cleaning.


Anyway, I have to run to the drug store for more bandaids.  I have a huge gash under my lip from sloppy shaving this morning.  I wonder if it is time for a summer beard.

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Corey Bearak

If the beard frames a face well, it works. I briefly enjoyed one during law school; I shaved when my former boss came to speak at the U. and called me "Corey Bear" -- The mustache became history after I met Shelly; I decided to go clean shaven approaching a wedding (pics?) and the rest remains history. At the same time I can avoid shaving for days on vacation or a weekend without appointments or formal outings. Summer tans tend to allow me a day or do without a need to shave.
Bill Waldorf

I think we all have parts of our day that we wish we could figure out a better way. Mine is wasting time on the maintenance stuff and too little time on the thinking stuff. What's yours?

Submitted by Janet_Adler on Sun, 04/07/2013 - 11:48

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Janet Adler

My Dad had 10 brothers (and a sister). They were all nice and good looking fellows...except for Jack. Jack had a mustache Never liked mustaches. I guess beards are ok as long as they are short and clean. Maybe I'll grow one!

Submitted by VikramRajan on Mon, 04/08/2013 - 03:30

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Vik Rajan

My wife has started to give me a pass on my days off :) Every now & then I surprise her to get brownie pts. Otherwise, I've started to cherish the boyish look, in lieu of the gray hair taking over.

Submitted by AnnLindsay on Mon, 04/08/2013 - 04:48

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Ann Lindsay

Hi Donald,
I am going to rock the boat as a proponent (sorry!) of you shaving 12 (or 13!) months a year. First thing I did is look at your profession (legal), your placement in your firm (partner) and your geographic location (upscale Manhattan). Even one of these factors would have been enough to warrant a clean shave daily, but all three make it even more important. Why? Men who work in the highest levels of the service sector (law, finance, upper politics) need to be perceived by their clients/constituents at the highest level of formality and respect for the position. Men in management positions who are role models of younger men and women in their field have even more responsibility, and lastly, Manhattan is the second most formal city in this country. If I may be so bold as to suggest that you have a deeper than comfort responsibility to uphold your own brand as well as that of your firm by presenting a shaved face Monday thru Friday.
Don't hate me. :-)

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