It's the most wonderful time of the year, for some anyway.

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As I get older, the loss of the holiday traditions that my mom carried on are now being eroded in my home.  There are a few reasons for that, some because we are a mixed heritage household, some because time does not allow the leisure to participate, make, decorate the way I used to.  

But for me, the loss is felt most because I live so very far away from my core family, who are in Texas…ALL OF THEM.  I rarely travel during the holidays, though we have in the past. 

I think also, not having grandchildren to take the place of the kids in the home in yonder years also works to erode the reason to go all out.  My mom, every year when we were young hosted an “Open House” on Christmas Eve.  This was for friends mainly, because we truly did not have much in the way of family.  She would cook and bake for days to get ready for this.  Decorating the Christmas tree was done about 2 weeks prior to that day, and we spent the evening watching the Christmas classics (my favorite was How the Grinch Stole Christmas, NOT with Jim Carey!) while decorating the tree and then would always have my mom’s famous potato cheese soup after. 

Now that I have typed all of this out, I guess what I miss most about Christmas is, simply, my mom! 

So, in reflection, I think we should all try to be mindful that not everyone celebrates, nor feels they have a reason to celebrate and maybe, just maybe, they just need a warm smile instead of a holiday greeting.

I don’t know the appropriate greetings for all heritages, so I will simply say, Ho Ho HO…peaceful holidays to all!

Comments

Daniel Schwartz

I can relate. My family is mostly gone or far away from where we live now. We are also a mixed cultural family, celebrating different holidays, but trying to maintain some traditions. It does get harder it seems to keep it together, but we do the best we can.
Robert Intelisano

Thanks for sharing Crysti! This really resonates for me as, since her first seizure on 3/31/23, we've been in crisis mode between hospitals, rehab and now assisted living. The ONLY gift I need is for Mom to be able to spend Christmas with us. Doesn't even have to be on the 25th. Thanks again and hope to see you at the Gotham holiday party!
Tessa Marquis

The important thing is to adapt. Make your own special days and invite others to share those events. We can't recreate the past, since new folks won't see it through the lens of memory. We can't invent a brand new, untested experience. All we can do is open our hearts and our homes to new people, old friends, the people we really love, and those we would like to know better.

Make a New World, even better than the one that went Before!

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