We recently attended a destination wedding. It was extended family. As with many destination weddings, the “events” often consist of more than the actual wedding ceremony and reception.
Due to restrictions and/or limitations on the hosts that we were not privy to, we weren’t included in the welcome dinner. Not sure where the line was drawn; but for whatever reasons, we “didn’t make the cut”. (Yes, that was actually said to us.)
We were determined to enjoy our weekend and move past any discomfort. By complete coincidence, we happened to be eating in the same restaurant as the dinner was held in a private room downstairs. Family members who “made the cut” had to stop at our table on the way to the rest rooms. We were able to eat what we wanted and say hello on our turf. We ate the desert we ordered rather than the selection that was delivered from the private room (an offering?). Any insult that lingered from not being included faded and was replaced by a controlled detachment.
Not "making the cut" turned out to be just fine.