Goodbye, For Now

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I don’t like saying goodbye to my children. 

 

They both live too far away – and they both enjoy coming home which I like very much.

 

Visits home now are usually extended and filled with concentrated family time, so much talking til late at night and food – let’s not forget the food.  [Last time my son and his girlfriend were up to visit, I referred to someone as “delicious”.  Shae concluded that since she had previously dubbed food as my “love language”, that reference made sense].

 

The distinct problem is the end of the visit.  While I could not be more proud of how independent my children have grown to be, I am also always very sad to say goodbye.  Jaclyn leaves in the morning. 

 

So, I have learned that the way I manage goodbye is to always have our next visit on my calendar.  With a family wedding, and multiple holidays coming up I am in pretty good shape with both of my children through the end of the year.  I’ll take it.

 

Now I say goodbye, for now, with a few tears.

Comments

Daniel Schwartz

Parting is always difficult. But it just leaves you with more to look forward to on the next visit, which for you is already scheduled. It's all good.
Nancy Schess

It really is! I remember when Jaclyn was working in Australia, we would WhatsApp Video with her at her lunchtime while she was sitting outside with the kangaroo.
Nancy Schess

Yes, all good. And it is always a mixed emotion because along with being sad for me, I am so proud of how independent my children have grown to be.
Robert Intelisano

Love this blog! Absence makes the heart grow fonder
Rich Slomovitz

Know the feeling. When our kids are home, the house takes on such a different energy. Always a let down when they leave. Like you, we always try to have the next visit (either them home or us to them) in line before they leave. Easier for us since both kids are in the same city (Boston) and only four hours or so away.
Amparo Connors

Wholly agree Nancy! Likely you we're proud of our kids' adult lives and accomplishments but the house has a very different vibe without them. I usually have two to three trips on the books to see our FL kids. One daughter's thankfully only 30 minutes away so we get together often. Now seeing my son the Brooklyn based musician, with his ever flowing schedule & nomadic travel (can you say Burning Man), that's tougher to do. Thank goodness for family weddings and Holidays since get to see him then. But it's tough to get all three kids together at once. We learn to live with the changes in our lives and yes we shed tears. Safe travels to Jaclyn.
Paula Oleska

I feel you, Nancy! Even though I don't have kids (or cats), I used to always tear up saying good bye to family members and friends. Jaclyn is awesome and I understand how difficult it is to part with her. I was really impressed meeting her and look forward to another opportunity to see her. Congratulations!

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