Submitted by Rona_Gura on

Continued Brutality in the Internet

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I have often written about the effect baseless online reviews have had on me and my colleagues. This week it happened to friends of mine, in a particularly vicious way, and it made me extremely angry.

 

 

There is a Facebook page called Tri-State Restaurant Club. It can be very informative at times. But, I have also found that people can be very vicious on the site. They tend to write reviews with little or no regard for the effect it might have on a small business.


 

Last week I happened to be on the site and noticed a particularly vicious review about a restaurant I frequent almost once a week. In fact, I even wrote a blog about this restaurant as my local place where, “everybody knows my name.” The review involved a catering order which the complainant asked to be delivered by 6:00 (which it admittedly was) but was cold and the cheese congealed (Italian food) when it was opened at 8:00 that evening, two hours after delivery. The writer also complained that when he showed up at the restaurant several nights later on a Friday night at 7:00 p.m. (one of their busiest times) he was appalled that the owner requested that they discuss his complaints at another time.

 

 

What infuriated me most about the post was the plethora of comments that came after the post. People who had, admittedly, never been to the restaurant wrote their own negative comments and promised never to go that restaurant.

 

 

By the time I posted on the site and pointed out the inconsistencies in the initial review and my own positive experiences over twenty years, there was probably about fifty negative comments all from people who had clearly never been to the restaurant. And when the owner posted her side of the story, i.e. she cannot be responsible for the temperature of food that is left unopened for two hours and she had promised to speak to the complainant at a less hectic time, people who have never met her and had no personal knowledge of what actually occurred viciously attacked her as a liar.

 

 

To me, the initial attack and the comments that came after was analogous to a mob mentality. There was no reason for people who had absolutely no experience with the restaurant to contribute to the posting. What is it about the internet that seems to encourage such brutal, unprovoked attacks? And, more importantly, what can small business owners, like me (who ethically cannot even respond to them) and my restaurant owner friends do about them?

 

Comments

Corey Bearak

This is a tough one but the option of complaining to Facebook. You select "give feedback" and also report the post. If one is tagged, it can be removed. Also I require notification and approval on anything that mentions me or tags me. It allows me to address anything I deem necessary.
Fred Klein

Push the negatives down with a wave of positives!
Cayce Crown

It is so aggravating when people/businesses are attacked for very little or no reason. And people seem more easily enraged these days. What you did was wonderful, bringing reality into the situation. Humans will say and do whatever they want and all I can do is stay present and embrace reality by posting, phoning, marching and voting.

Submitted by Marc_Lawrence on Sun, 07/01/2018 - 23:44

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Marc Lawrence

What is the restaurant? We live on the south shore and would love to try it and post a positive review on Tri-state. See, your honest post got them more business!
Daniel Schwartz

I am agree with Marc above. Send me the name of the restaurant. I post many reviews among Google maps and have been read over 200,000 times. I would love to try this place out.

Submitted by Liz_Saldana on Mon, 07/02/2018 - 04:37

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Liz Saldana

I've had experience with this; but have yet to find a solution to people who choose to be downright mean for no reason other than no one is going to come to their door to address it with them. I agree with Fred. Bury the negativity with positivity. Do what you're doing, raising awareness, and watch people rally.
Riva Schwartz

We will go with you to that restaurant - You know that Alan has more followers on Tri-State than that other person

Submitted by NeilHollander on Mon, 07/02/2018 - 08:23

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Neil Hollander

This is what our society has become . The internet/social media has become the vehicle to spew the vitriol and rage that inherently we have adopted as a society . It’s bled over from the differences spawned in the political arena to the every day world of people just plain pissed off about life . Small minded and talentless . Frustrated and malcontent . Self entitled and moronic . What was it ? The Red Hen that threw Sarah Danders out ? The Maxine Waters technique ? All spilled over into the mainstream . Disgusting stuff . I remain geographically aloof . And well armed . Because I can . The Humans are showing their real colors .

Hollander Sends

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