Submitted by Fred on

Parental Pride

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One of the driving forces in my life was the lack of direct praise I received from my father.  Yes, his friends told me how proud he was of me, but it was a hollow substitute.  

As a result I was determined to share my ample pride with my sons and I think I did a far better job than my dad.  

I am so proud of them!

That gets me to Chris Wallace of Fox. If only his dad, the famous 60 Minutes out spoken reporter Mike Wallace, were alive to hear his son proclaim "You don't get to tell us what to do".

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Submitted by Judy_Mauer on Thu, 02/23/2017 - 20:52

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Judy Mauer

Great Blog! Fathers loom large for every one. I was Lucky - my support and love from my father was abundant.

Submitted by MarilynGenoa on Thu, 02/23/2017 - 22:41

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Marilyn Genoa

Fathers and Mothers. I hope (and do believe) that the unconditional love I have for my daughters (and that their father had for them as well when he was alive) is something they carry with them. We all carry the ghosts of our past (real or perceived) and my husband and I too were determined that our girls knew they were loved and respected for who they each were. While that did not mean that we did not set boundaries as they were growing up, they did know that we would always be there.
Cayce Crown

Sometimes we must parent ourselves. Mine were great in some ways, but awful in others. Of course, I love them. I have no doubts that you are a fabulous Daddy.
Rona Gura

I agree with Marilyn. Yours is a lesson for both Moms and dads.
Gideon Schein

My mom used to say "there is no reason to take 'thank you' or praise someone to your grave!"
Riva Schwartz

My father was very proud of me and he showed it! I am very proud of my son and I show it! The circle of life...

Submitted by NeilHollander on Fri, 02/24/2017 - 05:01

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Neil Hollander

Sorry Chris ! Somebody has to call the media out for their uncontained bias . That being said : TELLING a child how proud you are is essential . Watching their face light up at the thought ! You can't beat that . But what is important is to teach them a " sense of self , " Without that you might want to pack up and go home . It is only later in life that I was able to look in the mirror and know who the other guy was and to be proud of that guy ! That took a ton of work! Self-loathing is a common phenomenon. It starts early . My mother always called me a "rotten kid." Nice huh ? And that description burns me to this day . That and the fact that my father NEVER had my six . LOYALTY goes right along with PROUD and SENSE OF SELF !!

Hollander Sends

Submitted by Fred on Fri, 02/24/2017 - 05:10

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Fred Klein

Who knows what they experienced in the Depression and WWII, but it was no picnic for us.
Corey Bearak

Parents cannot heap praise on their children enough. No matter the degree of pecuniary or other kinds of success, always room to express how proud your are!

Submitted by NeilHollander on Fri, 02/24/2017 - 07:30

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Neil Hollander

That's for sure ! But no excuse and I have a lifetime of resentment which I am now only coming to peace with
Cayce Crown

One wonders how they were treated as children. No excuse, but understanding a little bit.
Victoria Drogin

Very proud of my daughters and step sons. I learn about myself as I parent them. It is such a window into my evolving relationship with my parents - especially my dad who was a strict disciplinarian. Now, looking back, with the closeness and perspective brought by years, I can see the love behind some of the hard choices he made. It's hard to be a parent. :)
Cynthia Somma

Chris Wallace's line should go down in history!

Your dad was proud of you (from the stories I've heard) many of his generation had a stoic, hard shell because they had to---it's how the survived. Praise, kindness was seen as weakness. Thankfully, you had a wonderful mother and now a wonderful family. The cycle is broken,

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