I’m still angry when I think about it — angry at myself.
Several years ago, I was at a small wedding reception dinner and found myself at the bar with the father of the groom (I was from the bride’s side). I don’t remember much of the conversation except that he was talking about his background and used the Yiddish term (the “S” word) for a black person.
I was appalled. But I didn’t say anything. Didn’t tell him how offensive the use of that term was to me.
I should have called him on it and told him that his use of the term was unacceptable.
I would never use that word. Did I condone its use by not voicing my objection? It was almost as if I had uttered the word myself.
I’m still angry-at myself-for not saying anything.